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Choice, Courage and Commitment


Choice: What makes humans different? Humans are “rational animals”, and we have the ability to learn from other sources and rationalize the judgment. We have unique power of making wise choice. However, due to industrialization and capitalism culture, medical institutions, in some cases have taken the power of choice from mothers and family. Most of the options you get is in favor of the institution.

Incident Example: the decision for C-section happened since the care provider was supposed to go for a weekend

How many times did you dare to question the decision made by your care provider? Even if you have questioned, did you get 100% satisfaction from the reasons you received from the care provider?

Courage: When you are bombarded with options which are not satisfactory, you need courage to say “NO” and explore alternative options. Basic need for courage is knowledge, and you shall educate yourself with authentic data and you shall come out of the fence and wander around to look for alternative options.

Incident example: after first C-section birth, second birth shall be C-section only, no chances of natural birth!

My wife had the courage to say “NO” and search for an option like VBAC and found an authentic care provider like Birth Village (BV)

Courage is willingness to completely change our perception of how the world works.

Commitment: Imagine you decide to go on weight loss program and you opted for a healthy lifestyle. In today’s world, doughnuts are sold in diet book sections, if you are not committed to the cause, you lose the game.

Once you made the choice for your betterment, there is no going back, and you are committed to achieve the results.

“Yes, I did ittttttt”, and these were exactly my wife’s words when the baby was delivered through VBAC.

This book shall help you advance few steps, and I can tell you “You can do it”.

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